Ideals in Youth Young people have always had a great capacity for enthusiasm, for big things, for high ideals, for everything that is genuine - St. Big Things The idealism of youth - what an inexhaustible subject!
Psychologists explain it, educators build on it, demagogues exploit it, and perhaps worse still older people look on it with benevolent tolerance or cynical skepticism, and wink knowingly to one another: "They'll learn". Young people certainly will learn many things from their elders and from the way they live. One of the things they will not learn, one hopes, is cynicism, that is, the loss of one's ideals.
Whether this occurs or not depends largely on the type of older person they happen to meet. If an older person takes it for granted that, though it is logical that young people have ideals, it is Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping logical and besides inevitable that they end up by losing them, then one can only conclude that the older person in question either does not believe much in ideals or else does not believe much in young people.
If a parent wants a self-assessment as to how he stands on this point, he would do well to quiz himself with a few questions such as these: - Do I believe in the idealism of young people? Only the person who can answer each of these questions affirmatively can entertain some hope of being a good parent. Ideals in constant growth One of the many striking things about St. He rather believed that these ideals could and should grow indefinitely. He had his own experience to go by; his personal ideals grew steadily from the age of fifteen to his death almost sixty years later.
And he could also go by his experience with millions of young people from all over the Birds Of Pressure - Various - Minimal Techno. But, being a realist and - above all - a man of faith, he knew that the human heart was made not just for any ideals, but only for the ideals that Christ brought to earth. He knew that these are the only ideals capable of filling our hearts - to overflowing - during a lifetime.
His own life was entirely devoted to incarnating these ideals and awakening them in others. By this I mean also that he was perfectly well aware that Dragon Sickness - Galena - Galena (File) young person's heart is not just a focal-point of ideals; it is a field of battle.
He addressed his message to all. But his insistence that we are all called to the highest possible ideals was constantly accompanied by the reminder that we are all equally capable of the greatest possible crimes, and must therefore be prepared for a life-long struggle.
Now, if the struggle hits all of us, it obviously hits harder when it hits first - which is in adolescence. Let us take a closer look at those early teen years when a boy or a girl is no longer a child, but is not yet a man or a woman either, and stands therefore in special need of his or her parents' understanding.
The age of contrasts It is the age of contrasts. Life, in youth, seems bigger. It seems to offer more. It is filled with the challenge of great things. And the young person feels ready to take up the challenge. But life, in youth, also seems more complicated; and the Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping person finds himself or herself faced with new difficulties or with old ones that have suddenly grown worse: selfishness, sensuality, laziness, vanity, rebelliousness It is the age of contrasts: nobleness, on the one hand; calculation on the other.
It is the age of enthusiastic victories and of discouraging defeats. It is, or should be, the age of struggle. The point is well expressed in the following words of St. The craziest things attract us. It's humiliating, isn't it? St Augustine used to say that his passions were constantly trying to pull him to the ground.
But at the same time, along with these crazy ideas, we feel a great urge to do something worthwhile, to serve other people, to live a pure life, to work in things that can help others, to sacrifice ourselves. Isn't that true too? And it is then that the struggle breaks out between our passions seeking to pull us down, and those other wonderful longings that spur us upwards. We have got to fight. There's just no alternative".
It is elementary for a parent to realize that adolescence marks the outbreak of this war between nobleness and calculation. It is also obvious and elementary to be aware and I suppose that practically everyone is aware of it that there could be fewer more decisive proofs of being a poor parent than the readiness to spoil children by giving them whatever they ask, or allowing them whatever they want.
The grown-up person who acts in this way turns himself into the accomplice of a young person's selfishness; he becomes the ally of his mean and calculating instincts, and so practically guarantees the defeat of that young person's idealism and the destruction of his generosity and capacity for sacrifice. It ought to be no less obvious and no less elementary to see although my impression is that many parents do not see it that one can prove oneself to be a bad parent by falling into another error - a subtler but perhaps more harmful error, which is to let the great and noble ideals of youth be edged out and replaced by limited and calculated Brùid - Cogadh narrow and selfish objectives which, even if at times they leave little room for laziness, always leave plenty for individualism and self-centredness; and which, whatever else they may give if achieved, cannot give happiness.
Let me try to explain what I am getting at. Ideals and objectives An ideal is something Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping. It is essentially felt to be something greater than one's self. It is something which, by the sheer force of its beauty and nobility, makes a person want to get away from himself, to forget himself, so as to defend, to admire, to love, and to serve that ideal, and strive upward toward it.
A person with a true ideal is ready to live for it and, if necessary, to die for it. There are not all that many true ideals: love, family, country, God An objective, in contrast, is something - felt to be of worth - that one hopes to gain and make one's own.
It may be something difficult to attain. It may be something great. But it is seldom, if ever, seen as being greater than one's own self if so seen, it would tend to turn into an ideal, to be served; or into a humiliating irritant, to be rejected or hated. An objective attracts because it promises to satisfy some specific personal desire: the desire for power or pleasure or popularity, or the simple desire to progress and improve oneself There lies its worth.
An objective Sexy Cinderella (Album Version) - Lynden David Hall - Sexy Cinderella something that can be conquered an ideal, never. A man should always have objectives before him because he needs always to keep moving ahead.
But if he attains his objectives, there are different ways in which he can use them. He can use them as a support under his feet, as a springboard to help him reach closer to his ideal which is still far off.
Or he can just stay put, smugly looking at what he has attained, as if there was nothing more left for him to achieve. He is so proud of having achieved his objectives that he forgets his ideal, if in fact he ever had one. A person who has ideals will always have objectives. But some people have objectives without having ideals. If a man dreams of an ideal love, of an ideal woman, and thinks he has found her, he falls in love His objective then will be to marry her.
If they get married, he will have achieved his objective. But if his love is real Shooting Shark - Blue Öyster Cult - Captured Live will continue to be his ideal and he will recognize that despite all his efforts to achieve other objectives to keep improving in points of character, for instance he will never be worthy of her.
It would be a sad day if he ever came to feel he was at last worthy of her, and worse still if he ever felt her to be unworthy of him. Idealism would have collapsed in that marriage .
The man who wants to marry for money has an objective, but not an ideal. And if he succeeds in marrying a rich heiress or the widow of a millionaire, Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping will have attained his objective. And that is as far as he wanted to go. Ideals just did not enter into his plans. A boy with no objectives is or will turn out to be an idle boy. Anyone can see that. But a boy without ideals is and will always be a disaster - no matter how many objectives he has or what efforts he makes to achieve them.
The sad thing is that lots of parents do You Don’t Want Me Anymore - Various - The Dick Clark National Music Survey see this, though it is parents who should be their children's main guides.
They do not seem to understand that the objectives-without-ideals formula for life can turn out energetic people, perhaps, but not happy people. For a life without ideals can only be selfish and vain, and therefore unhappy. There are far too many parents around who in relation their children and even at times in relation to themselves cannot see the difference between high ideals and self-centered aims; between ideals that ennoble a person's character, and aims that unless they are directed toward a higher end, a true ideal diminish it.
And so they allow or even cause the noble ideals of adolescence to be debased and turned aside into poor and inadequate objectives. One sees so many cases! Parents with a fairly bright son or daughter who constantly Queen Of My World - Freedom Call - Dimensions him or her to come out number one in their class.
And the young person ends up quite centered on that goal and quite satisfied to attain it. It is a very bad thing indeed to be satisfied in youth. One can think of plenty of other cases: a father with an athletic son who provides him with every sort of stimulus clubs, coaches, trips and so manages to turn out a boy whose one aim is to become a tennis or swimming champion; or the mother who allows or perhaps again encourages her teenage daughter to think that the one thing that really matters in life to be popular with boys and so she has no thoughts in her pretty little head except for clothes and other ways of attracting their attention.
What's wrong with wanting to be a tennis champion? It seems to me quite natural that young people do all of these things. What I am suggesting, however, is they should not be led or allowed to believe that, in doing them, they are striving for ideals. They are striving for aims or objectives Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping , I repeat, is not the same thing. What I would like to emphasize is that teenage boys or girls who simply fill their lives with these things are leaving them empty of ideals.
And a life empty of ideals is heading for unhappiness. It is a tremendous pity if children or parents fool themselves on this point. It is sadder still if parents are to blame for having deceived their children on the matter. Isn't it true that the roads along which far too many parents seem to be pushing their children, are paths 666 - Alarma! selfishness, silly vanity, or narrow ambition?
But why? Why have these parents been such poor pupils in the school of life? How is it that they Just A Girl That Men Forget - The Ideals - The Ideals of Barbershopping so unconcerned to spare their children, if they can, the mistakes that stand out in their own experience? Proud of their parents?
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